PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY!

I recently attended a 2 day seminar on Team Building - that focused towards healthy Team Leading/Building at work. Additionally, it taught me a few other philosophies of life which I could very well apply in my personal life too.

Conflict Management
You are in discussion with a person about something that you feel is important and there is a disagreement; the CONFLICT.
How would you handle the situation? What is your style of managing conflicts?
Turtle: One who withdraws into a shell to avoid the conflict?
Shark: Try to overpower the opponent by forcing them to accept your solution to the conflict?Teddy Bear: Try to smooth over the conflict out of fear of harming the relationship with the other person.
Fox: Willing to sacrifice part of the goal and the relationship in order to find agreement for the common good.
Owl: Try to discuss and identify a solution which will satisfy both u and the other person.

Patterns
Each one of us has a pattern of our own and we are more often than never stuck in it. No matter how hard you try, you will still end up back into your behavioral pattern. We need to break these in order for us to grow in life and move on.

Emotions
Situations are ruled by emotions. You need to put a hold on your emotions and not let them control your decision and mind.

How can I change my behavior? How to change life? How break a bad habit?
In order to solve problems, you need to be active and this often involves changing your habits and ways of thinking.
For example, you may want to reduce your weight, find a better job, complete a difficult task, or change your relations to other people.

These problems are difficult and extensive. It might help to divide them into a number of smaller objectives, begin with the one that comes first and then set new objectives. Each objective must be clearly defined and more importantly for me 'ACHIEVABLE'.It might be wise not to demand perfection from yourself.
You could, for example, decide to exercise 30 minutes at least five days a week instead of 30 minutes a day.
That gives you the possibility to succeed even if you don't manage to do it every day.If you want to achieve a big change, it can be a good idea to divide it into a series of small short-time sub goals, which step by step will bring you closer to your final goal. It is often easier to make small changes, one at a time, than large changes in your way of living.
It is obvious that this approach can be applied to almost anything you want to do. The most important part is to stop lying to yourself and finding reasons for not doing things. Setup a system and stick to it.

Problem solving
The presenter of the seminar gave us a very good example.

A professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see; asked the students,' How much do you think this glass weighs?'

'50gms!' .... '100gms!' ......'125gms' ......the students answered.

'I really don't know unless I weigh it,' said the professor, ‘but, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?'

'Nothing' the students said.

'Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?‘ the professor asked.

'Your arm would begin to ache' said one of the students.

'You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?'

'Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress; paralysis;Have to go to hospital for sure!’ ventured another student;
all the students laughed.

'Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change? ' asked the professor.
'No' the students said.
Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?' The students were puzzled.

'Put the glass down!' said one of the students.

'Exactly!' said the professor.' Life's problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head; they seem OK. Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache. Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything. It's important to think of the challenges (problems) in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT to 'put them down' at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh & strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!'

Remember to 'PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY!' :)
Be HAPPY always....